Tuesday, September 30, 2008

The pain of the children


Over 7 years ago Juergen and I were in Bangkok, Thailand to adopt Philip. All across the city you could see huge building projects that had been abandoned because of the Asian financial crises. And in the orphanage were 100’s of new children who had been abandoned because of the sharp down turn in the economy. The financial crisis in America will bring with it terrible consequences for families in the US. It effects my own parent’s retirement. Eventually it could affect my family because Germany relies heavily upon export. But when I see the US economy going down I remember those empty buildings in Bangkok. I remember the faces of those children that will never know the love of their biological families because of the lack of money to feed them. The world already faces a huge food crisis that has caused the orphan population to explode this year. Parents are abandoning children that are older, even teenagers that they simply can not feed. They say when the American stock market sneezes the world’s stock market catches a cold. Today my heart hurts for all the Americans that are living with uncertainty about tomorrow. But my heart hurts even more for the world’s children that will lose everything because they rely upon US dollars flowing into their countries. I encourage everyone to contact their Congress person to pass some sort of bail out. It is the difference between a short recession and a world wide painful depression. Please tell them to stop playing the blame game. The Democrats could have passed this alone because they are in the majority. No one wanted to do this. It was unpopular period! Stop playing politics and do what needs to be done. Jobs depend upon it, and so do the lives of millions of children across the world that already live on the edge of poverty.

HERE is a link to Write Your Representative

Monday, September 29, 2008

Deaf Girl Learns To Play Violin!



just beautiful

Saturday, September 27, 2008

just amazing and it happend in China

Wednesday, September 24, 2008

Breast feeding in China

The milk problem in China has many parents wondering what they can feed their babies. This is sort of a sad story about a birth mom who gave her daughter away and now will breast feed another child for money. I breast fed Jessica and Nicole until they could eat solid food. I know many Chinese women do not breast feed because they must work. For these mom's and for those babies in the orphanages I feel so sad. I wonder if there is a problem with the soy based formula? Anyway, this story of a woman that actually gave her baby girl away really got to me. I know in China there is a women that gave birth to our beautiful Sarah. Every day I am so blessed to have Sarah as my daughter but my joy was someones very real loss.

Monday, September 22, 2008

Swimming


Well, I thought Sarah's swimming group was going to begin meeting today after a summer break. We rushed down to the pool, changed her into her suite, and waited...and waited...and waited. No one showed up. We asked the front desk (they told us earlier that the instructor was there) what was wrong? I guess she thought Sarah was in the older kids group. Sarah's group meets next week. I guess they forgot to call me, or I just missed the call. So she got dressed and I took her home. Just so the day wasn't a total loss, I made her a banana split. Ice cream is always good to ward off disappointment!

A True Ice Cream Story
This is a weird but true story (with a moral) ...

A complaint was received by the Pontiac Division of General Motors:

"This is the second time I have written you, and I don't blame you for not answering me, because I kind of sounded crazy, but it is a fact that we have a tradition in our family of ice cream for dessert after dinner each night. But the kind of ice cream varies so, every night, after we've eaten, the whole family votes on which kind of ice cream we should have and I drive down to the store to get it. It's also a fact that I recently purchased a new Pontiac and since then my trips to the store have created a problem. You see, every time I buy vanilla ice cream, when I start back from the store my car won't start. If I get any other kind of ice cream, the car starts just fine. I want you to know I'm serious about this question, no matter how silly it sounds: 'What is there about a Pontiac that makes it not start when I get vanilla ice cream, and easy to start whenever I get any other kind?'"

The Pontiac President was understandably skeptical about the letter, but sent an engineer to check it out anyway. The latter was surprised to be greeted by a successful, obviously well educated man in a fine neighborhood. He had arranged to meet the man just after dinner time, so the two hopped into the car and drove to the ice cream store. It was vanilla ice cream that night and, sure enough, after they came back to the car, it wouldn't start.

The engineer returned for three more nights. The first night, the man got chocolate. The car started. The second night, he got strawberry. The car started. The third night he ordered vanilla. The car failed to start.

Now the engineer, being a logical man, refused to believe that this man's car was allergic to vanilla ice cream. He arranged, therefore, to continue his visits for as long as it took to solve the problem. And toward this end he began to take notes: he jotted down all sorts of data, time of day, type of gas used, time to drive back and forth, etc.

In a short time, he had a clue: the man took less time to buy vanilla than any other flavor. Why? The answer was in the layout of the store.

Vanilla, being the most popular flavor, was in a separate case at the front of the store for quick pickup. All the other flavors were kept in the back of the store at a different counter where it took considerably longer to find the flavor and get checked out.

Now the question for the engineer was why the car wouldn't start when it took less time. Once time became the problem -- not the vanilla ice cream -- the engineer quickly came up with the answer: vapor lock. It was happening every night, but the extra time taken to get the other flavors allowed the engine to cool down sufficiently to start. When the man got vanilla, the engine was still too hot for the vapor lock to dissipate.

Moral of the story: even insane looking problems are sometimes real.

(A better moral: chocolate ice cream cures vapor lock!)

China's milk



This is all so sad. I can not imagine the fear parents (of just one child) must be feeling. How do they feed the babies? most of the mothers work and I do not know how many breast feed? What about the countless children in the orphanages? What a crime!

Sunday, September 21, 2008

I can not move

Sarah fell asleep on my lap. I'm stuck here at my computer. I can not move. I saw the very cool back ground on my friend Heather's blog. I was wondering where she found it. It came from HERE. I thought I would try a new back ground too. Cute!

Boy's Rock!!!


I want everyone to consider adopting a boy. They wait much longer then girls ever will. Perfectly wonderful boys like the one I mentioned in my last post never find families because 80 % of the time families only want girls. The photo is of my oldest son Thomas. He just got electronic drums for his 11Th birthday. He is really gifted on the drums, and I do not need to hear him practice! Pretty cool huh!!! If you are getting tired and frustrated waiting to get matched with the perfect girl, maybe you should stand in line for a boy… boy’s rock!!!

Saturday, September 20, 2008

Perfect waiting boy

I read this on Rainbow Kids site about a healthy Asian boy who is listed with Children's Home Society. You have to be married and under the age of 44 (that rules me out). I don't know what country he is from but he sure is cute!!! I'm guessing Taiwan, I think I can not post his photo but take my word, he is cute! Just contact them if you are "paper ready" and ready to adopt a smart and healthy 4 year old boy who has the special need of just being "older" (silly isn't it...4 is old). Here is what they wrote about him...

108-24 This handsome boy was born on 6/2004. He likes to eat fruit. He can count up to ten. He can recite the alphabet. He is a curious little boy and has many questions. He likes it when his foster mother reads to him. He has a great imagination and sense of humor. This lovely little guy has no known medical needs and waits because of his age. Please contact us only if you are paper ready.

He sounds perfect to me!!!

Wednesday, September 17, 2008

Be in Prayer

I know many of you have been praying for a special family in China that have a very sick little girl named Susannah. They did make their blog private, but decided that they were being both a testimony and also receiving so much encouragement that they would stay public. Susannah is very sick and needs a miracle to live. It is not clear from the blog what is wrong with her. She is in a less then optimal hospital. I know they are very worried and need a whole lot of prayer. I know many of you are already praying but I thought I would spread the word that their blog is public again. Do not just think of them, please take a minute to send them some kind words. It is a very hard place to be so far from home with the child you have dreamed of for over a year, and so afraid you may lose her. I pray they do not lose Susannah but that she recovers and comes home to her waiting brothers.

LWB Cleft Nutrition



I was checking the LWB blog to see how the milk powder problem in China is affecting their kids. So far it looks like their kids are safe. Praise God! So far thousands of babies across China have been hurt by this milk powder. Anyway, they had this video about cleft bottles. Nutrition is always an issue with cleft babies. Asians have a 3 times higher chance of having a cleft baby (a fact I did not know). There are cleft babies in every orphanage in China. LWB helps feed these kids and provides surgery that changes lives. I'm distressed about todays milk powder problem in China, but here is a problem that is always there. You can give money to Love Without Boundaries and help feed orphans today. And if you are thinking about adopting from China (or anywhere) then maybe look twice at a child who is cleft affected. Here is information on this SN.

Tuesday, September 16, 2008

What now

I am sitting in a quite house. All 5 kids are off to school. I have a large amount to cleaning and house hold duties to catch up on. My house plants need to be repotted, I have to get rid of the old cloths the kids have out grown etc... But I think about the orphans. The millions of waiting children that still remains with out families. I hardly have time to breath but my mind still asks the question...what now? When the socks are all sorted and the chaos is in less chaos, will there be time for just one more child? I'm sure Juergen would say no. He is an old man...nearly 50. I'm feeling my age too. But my heart is open. Sure, they are work. Last night Sarah screamed for 20 minutes straight because Juergen would not take her with him when he picked Philip up from his sports class. I got a real headache from that. But I also got a hug, and an "I'm sorry Mama" too. I see the progress of all the kids. They make me so proud. I'm so glad I didn't listen to my well meaning friends who told me not to do it...not to adopt again! Life is going by very fast. I do not regret the choices we have made to grow our big family. Do we stop here? Is there room (and money) for one more? And can I convince even one more person to take the big risk to step out on the road that will lead you to a waiting child. There is no better way to spend your life then loving others. They make my life crazy, busy, and loud. Right now I have quite and sure it’s nice. How boring it would be to have a “perfect” empty house. How perfectly sad it would be! My mom use to say that “silence is golden”. That maybe true, but my loud kids are just about everything else!

Monday, September 15, 2008

Formula Recall

I read this on Love Without Boundaries blog


"Many of you have heard about the recent recall of Sanlu brand formula in China. It is impossible to know all of the orphanages that may have used this brand, but we can let you know that our LWB nutrition program uses only Nestle Nestogen or Lactogen; and Wyeth S-26 or Gold brand formulas."

They have not had any problems with their kids so far. I hope that China finds the source of the problem and corrects it very soon. God protect the children!

Saturday, September 13, 2008


Thursday, September 11, 2008

One more out the door!




Sarah had her first day at her new kindergarten. She is in a class that has 11 kids, 2 teachers and a speech therapist. Not bad!!! The total focus is language development. Sarah understands English and German. She still can not speak a clear sentence in either language. Part of the problem is the weakness of her mouth. In German you really move the mouth, while Chinese is a more tonal language. She spoke perfect Chinese. We had thought language would be no problem for her, yet it has been. I have high hopes for her in this new school! She returned so happy that I got the biggest hug I think she has ever given me!

Wednesday, September 10, 2008

Tuesday, September 9, 2008

for the families of a sn child


I just bought a book called, "Angel Unaware: A Touching Story of Love and Loss".

In the 1950s, doctors often advised parents of disabled babies to put them away in institutions or homes. But when entertainers Roy Rogers and Dale Evans Rogers discovered their new baby, Robin, had Down Syndrome, they were determined to take her home and give her their love.

It wasn't easy. Through countless surgeries and sleepless nights, the Rogers found themselves exhausted and worried until they began to notice a change in their lives. Somehow the unexplainable and unexpected was happening Robin was helping Roy and Dale draw closer to God and to each other. Robins brief life also persuaded them to do all they could to help others in similar circumstances.

Told from Robins point of view in heaven, Angel Unaware is a touching story that has inspired millions of readers around the world. Whether you are a parent of a special needs child or have experienced the loss of a loved one, Robin's story will bring you the peace and understanding you need in difficult times.

(I actually saw Roy Rogers when I was a child. He came to my grade school in Phoenix, Arizona for our "Western Days". He was going to do a benefit Rodeo for SN kids)



God Chooses Mom for Disabled Child
Written by Erma Bombeck Published in the Today Newspaper Sept. 4th, 1993

Most women become mothers by accident, some by choice, a few by social pressures, and a couple by habit. This year, nearly 100,000 women will become mothers of handicapped children.

Did you ever wonder how mothers of handicapped children are chosen? Somehow I visualize God hovering over Earth selecting his instruments forpropagation with great care and deliberation. As he observes, he instructs his angels to make notes in a giant ledger.
"Armstrong, Beth; son; patron saint, Matthew.
"Forrest, Marjorie; daughter; patron saint, Cecelia.
"Rudledge, Carrie; twins; patron saint.... give her Gerard. He's used to profanity.
" Finally, he passes a name to an angel and smiles, "Give her a handicapped child."
The angel is curious. "Why this one, God? She's so happy."
"Exactly," smiles God. "Could I give a handicapped child a mother who does not know laughter? That would be cruel."
"But has she patience?" asks the angel.
"I don't want her to have too much patience or she will drown in a sea of self-pity and despair. Once the shock and resentment wears off, she'll handle it."
"I watched her today. She has that feeling of self and independence. She'll have to teach the child to live in her world and that's not going to be easy."
"But, Lord, I don't think she even believes in you."
God smiles. "No matter. I can fix that. This one is perfect. She has just enough selfishness." The angel gasps, "Selfishness? Is that a virtue?"
God nods. "If she can't separate herself from the child occasionally, she'll never survive. Yes, there is a woman I will bless with a child less then perfect. She doesn't realize it yet, but she is to be envied. She will never take for granted a spoken word. She will never consider a step ordinary. When her child says "Momma" for the first time, she will be present at a miracle and know it! When she describes a tree or a sunset to her blind child, she will see it as few people ever see my creations." "I will permit her to see clearly the things I see---ignorance, cruelty, prejudice--- and allow her to rise above them. She will never be alone. I will be at her side every minute of every day of her life because she is doing my work as surely as she is here by my side."
"And what about her patron saint?" asks the angel, his pen poised in midair.
God smiles. "A mirror will suffice."

Monday, September 8, 2008

changing china

Here is a CNN story about how the young people in China are changing and more open the outside world.

Sunday, September 7, 2008

Cats


We went to a cat show today to help celebrate Jessica's 17Th birthday. Sarah loved the cats but is not feeling well. So far she has slept 2 hours this afternoon. She has a stomach ach and is a little warm. Hopefully it's nothing serious.

Friday, September 5, 2008

My Sarah Barracuda



She can not field dress a moose (yet) but she is no push over!

Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Thank you so much!!!


I was given this blog award from my blogger friend Beverly for creativity, design, interesting content, and contribution to the blogging community. Well, thank you! I'm not sure my blog is all those nice things right now, but we have had our moments! I'm totally honored anyone reads at all! I wish I had a new adoption to write about...now that would get those creative energies flowing! Today it's pretty day to day great. What creativity can you have with out conflict? If you have followed my blog you know it has not always been easy. That is one reason I have written so much about the election on my family blog. It's such interesting political theater this year. I love politics...maybe too much!

Monday, September 1, 2008